Putting the Phone Down

Putting the Phone Down

Sneakers on, I strapped my daughter into her stroller and ran to my son’s preschool. Normally, I take the car to pick him up, and we were all excited for a nice walk home. Picking flowers, banging rocks, and noticing every detail around him, my son savored the walk. I, on the other hand, became a bit bored. A ten-minute walk morphed into a forty-minute walk as we stopped every few feet. Did I engage with my son as he honed his observational skills? No. Pushing the stroller with my left hand, I began googling “healthy sugar cookie recipes” with my right hand.

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A good Reminder

Googling while walking isn’t a horrible thing to do, but I was convicted about it later that night while listening to my favorite podcast, Inspired to Action. In the episode I listened to the host, Kat Lee, interview Dawn Wible, founder of TalkMoreTechLess.com. Dawn shared some staggering statistics, including the fact that, on average, people check their phones 150 times each day, which equates to roughly every 10 minutes. She talked about how excessive use of electronics causes dependency and can take away from our time connecting with nature and with others.

I like Dawn’s message because she encouraged me to take small steps in order to “talk more and tech less.” She encourages people to start by keeping phones away from mealtimes and bedrooms, and she even sells a “detox box” as a reminder to put the phones away for periods of time. While I recognize that my iphone has many benefits, I also frequently feel guilty about using it when I’m with my kids.

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An Unconventional form of Service

For #serveyourfamilyfriday this week, I’m encouraging you (and myself) to make an extra effort to take your eyes off of your screens and to intentionally engage with your family. After I was reminded about the benefits of doing so, I left my phone in another room for an hour, and my son and I played a fun game of basketball (I use the word “game” loosely: he never actually let me touch the ball). I was glad my phone was in the kitchen so I could truly focus on my son.

I’m planning to craft some specific boundaries to help me in this area, and if you have any tips on how to reduce screen time, I’d love to hear them!  Also, if you’d like to receive our simple ideas for service, click here to start a club of your own.  Thank you so much for reading this, and let’s go love people (including our family members) on purpose!

Showing Love to those Suffering from Illness

Showing Love to those Suffering from Illness

our April Project

Recently, I’ve gotten to know some awesome people who are doing great things. One such person is Amy Lehman. When she found out about our club, she emailed me to let me know that her daughter, Kaitlyn, had recently overcome cancer. Dedicated to mobilizing people in the community, Amy is involved with a wonderful organization that supports local families who are dealing with pediatric cancer. After hanging up the phone with Amy, I resolved to work with the Bumblebee Foundation to put together something to encourage families who have kids with cancer. Heather, the founder of the foundation, suggested that we make Easter baskets to give to four different families; thus, our April Project was born.

Since we’ve started working on this, it has been amazing to see how generous people have been in donating items for the Easter baskets. We have four coordinators who are working to collect donations, and all of them are receiving generous donations. One of my friends even encouraged her daughter to sell lemonade to support Dylan, a 2 year old with eye cancer. Members of the group have donated their own services (photography, massage, etc.), and we’ve also received donations from Trader Joe’s and other businesses. So much kindness. Our baskets are “due” next week, and I still need to take my son to Target to pick out some Legos for one of the baskets, but as I’ve watched the collections grow, I’ve been so excited to think that the parents and kids who have spent hours in the hospital will receive a few things that might brighten their days.

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Are you interested in doing something like this with people you know? Here are a few tips to help you get started.

1. Contact your local hospital: Call the hospital in your community and ask them if they know of any local charities that support those dealing with cancer or other illnesses. If so, give them a call and follow the steps below. If there aren’t any charitable organizations in your area, ask the hospital if they will allow you to bring gifts to families at the hospital who are dealing with difficult illnesses.

2. Plan a theme for your gifts: we decided on Easter baskets because it is almost Easter, but you can plan your theme around any holiday. Having a theme to organize your donations around is helpful for participants, and if you are crafty (I’m not), this can help you make things pretty.

3. Collect Donations: ask the person in contact with the family (or families) what kind of donations would be most helpful. You can make one basket for the person who is sick, or you can make “baskets” for each member of the family. After you decide on this, think creatively about how to solicit donations. Use social media, visit local businesses, or make things yourself. This part is fun!

4. Deliver the Gifts:  talk to the hospital or foundation about the best way to deliver the gifts. You may not be able to do this yourself, but the important thing is that the families are receiving the donations.

5. (Optional): Share your experience: post pictures of your donations on our Facebook page, or share a “success story” with us on the blog. The more we talk about service, the more other people want to be a part of the fun.

resources

It can be difficult to talk to our kids about the fact that others are dealing with illnesses, but I believe that it is important for them to be aware of what is going on in the world so they can develop compassion. Here are a few resources that might be helpful. If you know of any others, please share them!

Books

1. Franklin Goes to the Hospital: This sweet book is about a turtle who has to go to the hospital to get his broken shell fixed. It is geared toward younger readers, and it deals with the theme of courage.

2. Harry Goes to the Hospital: Written by a doctor, this book deals with a young boy who is staying in the hospital. Harry doesn’t like dealing with all of the tests and other challenges, but he feels loved and supported.

 Video

1. #Rallyon for Kids with Childhood Cancer: this music video shows kids who have cancer playing and experiencing hope. This is a good one to show kids to start talking with them about the issue. Please watch and share: every view earns $1 towards cancer research.

I personally haven’t known the agony of watching one of my children go through cancer, but I have respect and compassion towards anyone who has. Let’s work together to make families dealing with cancer feel acknowledged, loved, and supported. If you have any thoughts on this post, or if you have other ideas about how we can show love, please let us know. Also, if you are interested, click here to start a club of your own.  Thank you so much for reading, and let’s go love people on purpose.

 

 

 

Three Ways to Inspire Kindness in your Children

Three Ways to Inspire Kindness in your Children

I don’t even have to step the playroom to encounter selfishness in my house. I can hear it before I walk in the door. “Mine” yells my toddler, “but I got it first,” replies her 4 year-old brother. As a mom, I’m constantly asking the question, “How can I help my kids be kinder to others?”

Encourage random acts of kindness:

Recently, we were at the park. The coolest thing happened: there was a little girl there who came up and introduced herself to my son. She said “Hi, my name is Hannah, do you want to play with my dog?” She brought two stuffed dog animals to the park: One for her and one to share with a friend. They had so much fun. This small act of kindness inspired me. I’m hoping to help my kids do random act of kindness like this. If you’d like to do random act of kindness with your kids and you’d like some ideas, I will be posting a kindness challenge of the day on Twitter and Instagram. Feel free to follow me; I’d love to hear your ideas too!

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Put Service on your Calendar:

Because of my New Year’s Resolution this year, I’ve tried to be more intentional about making serving a part of our lives. I’ve committed to doing one service activity with my kids each month, and I put it on the calendar to make it part of our plan. (I love plans). The service projects aren’t super complicated: for the first one, we brought popcorn to firefighters. If you’d like to join in on the fun, I will be posting ideas and tips for a different family-friendly service project each month. Some of these ideas include bringing cards to residents of assisted-living homes, doing local trail cleanups, helping the homeless, making Easter baskets for kids with cancer, and many others. Regardless of whether or not you join our “club,” the important thing is to put service on your calendar.

Model kindness:

Occasionally, when we’re playing with my son’s Sesame Street characters, I  will force Elmo to act out what showing kindness looks like. This is pretty cheesy, but so what? It just might help. More than that, we all know it’s true:  if we want our kids to be kind, we need to be kind ourselves. This can be tough, especially when we are tired and stressed. I’m still growing in this area, but I’m trying to write nice notes and do nice things for people around me. I hope that if my kids see me (and Elmo) showing kindness, they will want to be kind too.

Thank you so much for reading; it is a constant challenge to combat selfishness in ourselves and in our kids, and by sharing ideas, we can all become better at teaching our kids this important skill. Feel free to check out our website at www.familyserviceclub.org or follow us on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.  I know that the bickering in our playroom will probably continue, but I hope that by planning and encouraging kindness, I may hear some nicer words through the door as well. Do you have any ideas that have helped foster kindness in your family? I’d love to hear them!

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